“Loving From A Distance”
Are loving from a distance? Are you a caretaker? If so, how’s that working for you? I’m not judging because I’m right there with you. Doesn’t it seem like the people that are the most responsible, end up being responsible for everything and everyone? I learned this early on in my childhood. My sibling never helped with anything and I would say it was like they were the weak link. I wanted to please my parents, so I took the extra step and that has carried with me throughout my life. You might know it as a caretaker, or maybe as a codependent behavior. I was not aware of setting boundaries and making sure my cup was full enough to contribute.
If you’re feeling frustrated in a relationship or feeling like you are giving way more, I invite you to step back. Listen to the old saying “you can’t see the forest from the trees”. Look at your life, and find out what it takes to run yours, including all of your responsibilities and what it takes to do your daily maintenance. Can you really add someone else’s life into yours, maybe for a short time in an emergency? If this is something you are wanting to do, then you might want to look at what you can take off of your plate, and figure out what will be your bare minimum. Now add everything that you have committed to. How much time and energy do you have left?
We only wake up with so much energy to take us through our day, so don’t leave yourself completely empty. This is where I came up with the saying “love from a distance”. We can still be kind and loving and we don’t always have to fix everything or anyone for that matter. We can pick and choose so that our cup never feels empty, and our plate never feels too overwhelmed.
Learn this valuable sentence, “I hear you and I know you can do a great job”. Sometimes the best gift you can give someone is encouraging them to continue with their life. After all, we all have our own journey, and I’m learning this too. So everyday you come across family members, friends, co workers that might be struggling, let’s pause for a moment and love from a distance before we rescue them.
If you’re feeling frustrated in a relationship or feeling like you are giving way more, I invite you to step back. Listen to the old saying “you can’t see the forest from the trees”. Look at your life, and find out what it takes to run yours, including all of your responsibilities and what it takes to do your daily maintenance. Can you really add someone else’s life into yours, maybe for a short time in an emergency? If this is something you are wanting to do, then you might want to look at what you can take off of your plate, and figure out what will be your bare minimum. Now add everything that you have committed to. How much time and energy do you have left?
We only wake up with so much energy to take us through our day, so don’t leave yourself completely empty. This is where I came up with the saying “love from a distance”. We can still be kind and loving and we don’t always have to fix everything or anyone for that matter. We can pick and choose so that our cup never feels empty, and our plate never feels too overwhelmed.
Learn this valuable sentence, “I hear you and I know you can do a great job”. Sometimes the best gift you can give someone is encouraging them to continue with their life. After all, we all have our own journey, and I’m learning this too. So everyday you come across family members, friends, co workers that might be struggling, let’s pause for a moment and love from a distance before we rescue them.
Best,